hmm did you know it's a bad look to misgender people because you don't like them, deliberately or otherwise
@bryn If someone does that not-deliberately, how can it also be because they dislike them?
@Finfell out of lack of care, or if you're corrected and refuse to acknowledge or apologise
@bryn that makes sense
@bryn *cocking pistol* who did it
@realtoddhoward @bryn people misgender me constantly lmao
@girl @realtoddhoward mona i'll end them... wtf. this wasn't anyone lately but i saw it happen a while ago somewhere and it's irked me ever since
@bryn @realtoddhoward it sucks!!!
@bryn @girl @realtoddhoward
I'm convinced misgendering is a hatespeech and people who do it should be regarded with suspicion at the very least.
@floppyplopper @bryn @realtoddhoward it is! including intentionally not using neopronouns or using they/them for someone who doesnt use they/them pronouns.
@bryn thats a thing that meanies do
@bryn yeah i had friends that did that and didnt realized how fucked up it was. the ol “my respect for your identity is conditional on whether or not i like you” routine. yeah that trans guy is a fuckboy but we will NOT call him “She” laura!!!!!!
@smudgehell i feel like it could be hard to grasp how harmful it is if you're cis, not that that's any kind of excuse
i think i wanted to write this so i coul actually work out how to express it in words for myself as much as anything else
@bryn people who do this disgust me on a gut-wrenching level
@bryn right??? I hate when I tell ppl to check for pronouns someone's always gotta tell me some people don't deserve it. Excuse??? Even if someone is shit they still don't "deserve" Misgendering and probable transphobia.
@scoots exactly. no matter how shitty one person is, misgendering deliberately or remorselessly is an act of massive disrespect against all trans people
doing that frames a very basic respect for a core component of a person's self as a reward to be earned rather than the bare minimum human decency it is, and that fucking sucks!!